واکاوی اسطوره‌های والدگی از منظر مادران دارای تجربۀ طلاق تحت پوشش کمیتۀ امداد امام خمینی: یک مطالعۀ کیفی

نوع مقاله : پژوهشی

نویسندگان

1 کارشناس ارشد مشاوره، گروه مشاوره، دانشکده علوم اجتماعی، دانشگاه رازی، کرمانشاه، ایران.

2 دانشیار، گروه مشاوره، دانشکده علوم اجتماعی، دانشگاه رازی، کرمانشاه، ایران.

چکیده

پژوهش حاضر با هدف شناسایی و تعیین اسطوره‌های والدگری مادران دارای تجربۀ طلاق در شهر کرمانشاه به روش کیفی و با رویکرد پدیدارشناسی انجام گرفت. به این منظور 10 نفر از مادران دارای تجربۀ طلاق که سرپرستی فرزندان خود را برعهده داشتند و تحت پوشش نهاد حمایتی کمیتۀ امداد امام خمینی (ره) شهر کرمانشاه بودند، به شیوۀ نمونه‌گیری غیرتصادفی هدفمند انتخاب شدند. گردآوری داده‌ها از طریق مصاحبۀ عمیق صورت گرفت. پس از تجزیه و تحلیل و کدگذاری داده‌های حاصل از مصاحبه، سه مضمون اصلی والد اسطوره‌ای‌، فرزند اسطوره‌ای‌ و افسانۀ جدایی کم‌دردسر، به همراه شش مضمون فرعی ارتباط اجباری، ارتباط مشروط، والد توانمند، بایدهای نقش والدینی، ایدئال‌گرایی اجتماعی و بایدهای نقش فرزندی استخراج شدند. اسطوره‌های والدگری به معیاری برای سنجش احساس کفایت و موفقیت مادران دارای تجربۀ طلاق و همچنین معیاری برای داوری و قضاوت سایر والدین طلاق می‌شود. از سوی دیگر باورهای اسطوره‌ای ابزاری برای مادران می‌شود که نقش مؤثر خود را در والدگری برخلاف نقش همسری ابراز کنند. درنهایت نیز برای تحقق اسطوره‌های والدگری، استرس و تنش فراگیر در مادران ایجاد می‌کند؛ تنشی که می‌تواند مشکلات روان‌شناختی خاصی مانند افسردگی در والدین را ایجاد کند. این امر نیز بیش از قبل می‌تواند سبب ناکارآمدی در ایفای نقش والدینی شود.

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موضوعات

عنوان مقاله [English]

An Exploration of Parenting Stereotypes among Mothers Who Have Experienced Divorce under the Auspices of the Imam Khomeini Relief Committee: A Qualitative Study

نویسندگان [English]

  • Pegah Babaei 1
  • Mohammad Sajjad Seydi 2
  • Zahra Souri 1
1 MA Counseling, Department of Counseling, Faculty of Social Sciences, Razi University, Kermanshah, Iran.
2 Associate Professor, Department of Counseling, Faculty of Social Sciences, Razi University, Kermanshah, Iran.
چکیده [English]

The objective of this study was to identify and ascertain the parental beliefs of mothers who have experienced divorce in Kermanshah city. The research was conducted qualitatively and with a phenomenological approach. To achieve this purpose, 10 mothers who had experienced divorce and were responsible for their children were selected through non-random targeted sampling. These mothers were also under the support of the Imam Khomeini Relief Committee in Kermanshah city. Data were collected through in-depth interviews. Three primary themes were identified after the analysis and coding of the interview data. These themes include the mythical parent, mythical child, and the legend of hassle-free separation. Additionally, six sub-themes were identified, including compulsory communication, conditional communication, empowered parent, parental role requirements, social idealism, and child role requirements. Ultimately, the fulfillment of parental myths will result in widespread stress and tension among mothers, which can lead to specific psychological problems such as depression in parents, which in turn can lead to ineffective parenting. Additionally, parental myths will serve as a criterion for judging and evaluating other divorced parents, as well as a criterion for measuring the sense of adequacy and success of mothers with divorce experience.

کلیدواژه‌ها [English]

  • Divorce
  • Divorced Parents
  • Myths
  • Parenting
  • Parenting Myths

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